Since I've been Living Ripe, I'm frequently asked to teach techniques and share ideas. Which I love to do! When training a novice, I am very aware that this lifestyle can be overwhelming; in fact ANY change at all can be daunting to most of us; especially when relating to our feedings/feelings. That's because most of us have a relationship with eating that has nothing to do with nutrition or basic instinct. Due to our lifestyles, experiences and environments, eating is often rushed, stressful and emotionally based.
With overwhelming shame and self-judgement attached.
So it's almost as if you start on the losing end. But it doesn't have to be that way.
Obsessive dieting, weight fluctuations, dietary/digestive issues and
unrealistic perceptions all combined create a cocktail of CAN'T.
What we all need is a big dose of CAN:
1.
to be able to; have the ability, power, or skill to
2.
to know how to
3.
to have the power or means to
4.
to have the right or qualifications to
5.
may; have permission to
Instead of focusing on what you "can't" have, focus on what you CAN add - such as water, an apple, an orange, a carrot or a smoothie. Deprivation will never lead to improved health because it's a well-worn road that leads to frustration, hopelessness and eventually resignation. When adopting a new, improved eating plan, simply ADD an item a week, then another item, until every day you are incorporating a healthy choice.
As you ADD, you will naturally DECREASE unhealthy choices.
And over time, you will adjust to the healthier lifestyle and reap the benefits,
without feeling you had to fail another attempt to eat better.
And as you begin to feel the lifestyle is manageable and maintainable, you can continue to experiment with new foods, new ways of preparation and even healthier options.
I'm often heard telling my clients "if you were eating fast food every day, and you
tell me that now you are only going 4 days a week, I consider that a win".
IMPROVEMENT is the goal.
Feeling like a failure is not.
Do the best you can. And the best you can will get better and better.